Posts Tagged ‘Motherhood’

Eleven Months



My baby is eleven months old today.  I can’t believe this is the last *month* milestone.  How can eleven months go by so quickly and slowly at the same time?!  My littlest pumpkin has been a challenging baby.  She’s demanding and loud and a little over-emotional.  But you know what’s amazing about motherhood?  I love her regardless.  I could tell you stories about the days that my husband came home to find me in tears because she had been screaming all day.  The days where my friends told me that they didn’t know how I managed.  The days where I hid under the covers on the floor while she whined around her soother.  But you know what?  Instead I’m going to focus on the positive (which is very unlike me).  This hasn’t been the dreamy babyhood that expecting mother dream of, but it’s still been amazing.  For every hard moment there is an equally sweet moment.

To anyone who is planning on having a child and worries that their child will be difficult, I have this for advice… you’ll manage.  You’ll resent anyone who has a happy child but you’ll get over it.  I truly believe we’re only given what we can handle and you may not want what you can handle, but there’s a reason for it.

One good thing about colic is that it sure has taught my three year old to be patient.  She could have easily spent the last year losing it but instead she plays with the baby and even tries to give me suggestions on making her happy (and you know, sometimes she’s right!).  I’m very lucky to have my beautiful girls and I’m even luckier that we’ve all survived these months together… one more to go… and then a lifetime.


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The Good Ol’ Days

Oh how I long for the old days of motherhood.  Modern technology is great, it’s nice to have information at the tip of your fingers (even if most of it is crap) and it’s nice to have endless amounts of people to commiserate with online, but there is a downside.  The downside is that the bar of motherhood is set higher than ever.  Gone are the days when you were happy just to make it through the day.  It’s no longer good enough to raise a child that moves out at 18 and doesn’t grow into a serial killer.  Now we can see exactly what everyone else is doing and we can judge our parenting skills in comparison.

I think I’m a pretty good mom so far.  I haven’t had to deal with teenagers yet so I’ll revisit that in a decade.  If I didn’t have the internet or cable I’d plug along and be happy that my girls are somewhat well adjusted and listen to me at least some of the time.  But no, I torture myself by going online and opening my eyes to how much better everyone else is handling the task of raising children.  It’s no longer good enough that my infant only woke up three times last night, I can see that little Samantha has been sleeping in 12 hour stretches since birth.  When my babe starts saying mama, all of the other babies have apparently been reciting the alphabet for months, in their sleep.  When I finally persuade my toddler to eat a carrot stick by smothering it in ranch dressing I find out that I’m the devil’s handmaiden because I let her eat processed food.

I applaud the ladies out there who are raising perfect children, it must be exhausting but you are in no way letting on to this.  I hope that when our kids are in grade school together, my child doesn’t corrupt yours with her Dora t-shirt and box of smarties.  🙂

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